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Women of Strength be Self-Full!

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Women off strength understands the importance of being “Self-full.”
It is more than ok to take time each day to pamper yourself and do what makes you happy. When you do not take care of you first, your office and home will be in disarray. Your mind, body, and spirit becomes exhausted to the point you have nothing to give. Make an effort to set aside some time to yourself to enjoy your own company. Promise yourself when you have that time to yourself all you will do is focus on you by pampering yourself. The next best thing to being “Self-full” is to be authentic always and honor your words.
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Has the Bond of Sisterhood Disintegrated Amongst Women today?

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Has the Bond of Sisterhood Disintegrated Amongst Women today?

Women’s Rights Movement began in 1848. Women gathered together to fight for their rights. During the movement, women did not have time to back stab each other or fight against each other. They walked with purpose for each other for all men and women to be treated equally. The Women Rights Movements focused on serious issues which limited women’s rights such as family responsibilities, a lack of educational and economic opportunities, and the absence of a voice in political debates.

Today it seems most women are fighting and competing against each other. Gossiping behind each other’s back, disrespecting each other by sleeping with another woman’s man, calling each other horrible names, getting into physical altercations, and initiate rumors about each other. How and why did this all happen? It is sad when most women are unable to get along.

A few weeks ago there was an article regarding an altercation between Geneva Thomas and Melyssa Ford from “Blood, Sweat, and Heels” Reality Show on Bravo. It was sad to read about 2 intelligent women at a lovely boat ride getting into a serious argument which lead to one them having to go to the hospital to get 3 stiches on the head. The majority of the Reality Shows are portraying women negatively. It is unfortunate most of these women in the Reality Show are allowing the world to see how most women cannot be friends, care for each other, and stand by each other.

Women need to remember how it was challenging for us to have our voices heard and be treated equally. Women stood by each other back then to fight a common cause which was to receive respect in the work place, in politics, television,  and at home. Instead of fighting and competing against each other, we need to build the bond of sisterhood and stand by and for each other.

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Fearless

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Be fearless to love yourself unconditionally and embrace what makes you unique. Be fearless and allow the people you interact with on a daily basis get to know the organic you. Be fearless and never concern yourself with what people may say or think about you. Be fearless and show young girls and other women how to be a woman of strength. Be fearless and be you!

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9 Things Fearless Women Do!

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9 Things All Fearless Women Do

Fearless women succeed in life because they do things with confidence, they are courageous, and they speak and think differently. No matter what your age and location, dealing with situations fearlessly is important.
If being courageous and bold is something that interests you, here are 9 things fearless women do:

They speak up
Fearless women are not afraid of speaking their mind, they know that they matter. Don’t be afraid of speaking in public or in a group, take a stand for your beliefs. You have the right to be heard. People should know who you are and how you feel.

They take action
Wisdom will lose its importance if not converted to action. Move towards your goals, don’t accumulate knowledge in vain. Actions speaks louder than words. If you think things should be done in different way, then do it. Don’t wait for others to do it.

They wear white
It’s not necessarily wearing white to an important event, it’s wearing white to a picnic, an art class, or any activity. Wear white while cradling an infant and eating spaghetti Bolognese. White makes you look more confident. Don’t be afraid to wear white from fear of stains, be bold enough to wear white.

They remove 2 little words from their emails
We often write 2 little words in our email, “I think,” or “I feel.” These words are needless caveats that make emails longer. If you can’t change the habit of writing these words you can make use of the delete key.
They finish things they start
Fearless women have goals that are more important than laziness, embarrassment, or boredom. They make goals in response to their values, intentions, and actions. Their goals can make them proud when accomplished and they can proudly dedicate them to the woman they want to become, as well as the woman they are today. Don’t quit what you start, especially if you are quitting just because it’s hard.

They ask for help
Fearless women don’t hesitate to seek help. They ask for directions, they ask for help when they need it. They ask someone else if one has said no to help them. Fearful women usually stop after one rejection. There are always some people who love to help and it is always good to receive help and give help to others.

They keep a diary, not just a blog!
Blogging involves public confession and putting out details to many viewers. It’s courageous, although many fearless women keep a diary in which they can write their ideas and experiences from life. Recording your feelings at the end of a bad day will help make it better, you can also treasure memories and feelings.

They connect with others
Fearless women believe in connecting with people face to face. They step away from electronics and come out to meet people head-on. They listen to the needs of others and fulfill them when possible without expecting anything in return.

They learn from failure
They learn from failure and don’t repeat mistakes. There is nothing about failure to be scared, embarrassed, or ashamed of. Failure leads to freedom and success and builds character. Don’t be afraid of failure, it will show you another way and give you experience.

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When It Comes To Female Orgasms, It’s Literally The Thought That Counts

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When It Comes To Female Orgasms, It’s Literally The Thought That Counts

 

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What She Wants In Bed

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Men try to figure it out, but many don’t get it. Does she want candles lit for romantic lighting, or candle wax dripped on her nipples? Does she want to be made love to softly with feeling, or f*cked from behind with mad passion? I asked 1,000 women what they really wanted from men in the bedroom. They got real. The got raw. And they got honest.

Counting down from #10 — 

 

10. Foreplay. And it begins outside the bedroom. 

“He just starts. We walk in the bedroom, and he expects me to just flip on my back, automatically be wet, and ready for him to start thrusting.” —Monica F.

“I’m not an outlet that can just be PLUGGED INTO.” —Deb G.

“Make me want you!” —Fran T.

“A man’s intelligence is a HUGE turn-on for me.” —Juanita G.

 

For some men, there are two types of foreplay: being touched and the anticipation of being touched. What these guys don’t seem to realize is that their version of foreplay is in direct opposition to a woman’s largest erogenous zone: her mind. There’s no substitute for mental stimulation and intelligent discussion as foreplay.

Arousal for a woman often starts long before she is consciously aware it is happening. She is turned on by a look… by a statement… by his wit… even his willingness to listen without judgment. Seduction is an art form, and requires effort. It demands focus on her. She wants to feel important. She wants to matter. She wants to feel desired.

Bottom line: A woman’s largest erogenous zone is her mind, with his words and actions being the ultimate tools for effective foreplay.

 

9. Undress her… slowly.

“I want to be slowly unwrapped and revealed, like a present.” —Debbie B.

“He needs to take his time with me until I can’t handle it. And I want to see him want me. It drives me crazy.” —Michelle S.

Too often, couples get down to business. And while that really works on many occasions, that’s raw passion. Seduction can—and should— also be slower, and not rushed. Reveal her body slowly and let your eyes and hands hover, brush, caress, and grip places your tongue will soon follow.

Bottom line: Anticipation and appreciation go a long way.

 

8. Sex in public.

“The possibility of being caught or seen is a huge turn-on for me. We don’t have to have full penetration, but getting close works great. I’ve started going out without panties on so he can start things wherever we are.” —Erika D.

She might not want to actually have sex in public (getting arrested isn’t good), but the thrill of being observed is a huge turn-on for many women. After all, part of the excitement when you’re a teenager is not getting caught doing… whatever. Why would that change in adulthood?

To the guy who thinks his girl “wouldn’t be like that”: Yes, your girl, too.

 

7. Let her take control.

“I really like being in control. Not every time, but sometimes. And I don’t want to hurt him; I just want to do things to him. Things that please him, but also things that let him know he is not in control; I am.” —Karen W.

Power can be a big aphrodisiac for many people, men and women alike. And just like their male counterparts, many women want to not be on the receiving end of control. While most respondents weren’t looking for a BDSM lifestyle, over half (53%) were just as clear that they wanted their man to experience some level of submission, at least one time—tie him up, spank him, have access to all parts of him. And others (9%) were looking to have the same power as a man—where it wasn’t enough for her to be on top… she wanted him on the bottom.

Bottom line: She has just as much desire as he does… and she wants the opportunity to show him.

 

6. Role-play

“I love when he dresses up in his old Navy uniform. I didn’t know him then, so it makes things different, and men-in-uniform really turn me on.” —Jessie L.

“My husband has a foot fetish. When I wear stockings and heels, he loses his mind.” —Erica M.

“Maybe I’m all screwed up, but I like playing the naughty school girl (with pigtails!), and he’s the teacher who punishes me for getting my homework wrong.” —Hanna R.

Taking on a different persona can be freeing and allow for actions and thoughts to play out that you as a “real person” wouldn’t be able to follow-through with. By putting on a costume or assuming a different role, you can kill off inhibitions and self-conscious insecurities that would prevent pleasure.

Bottom line: Assuming a new role can not only be fun, it can eliminate relationship dynamics that might stifle sexual freedom.

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Women need to uplift and respect one another instead of gossiping about each other.

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Women need to uplift and respect one another instead of gossiping about each other.

 

It is sad when women are always against each other.  Women are supposed to be nurturing and caring but they have a hard time showing it.  We seem to gossip behind each other’s back and say hurtful things.  This type of behavior amongst women has been occurring since grammar school.  It continues straight through a woman’s career.

 

As adults we tend to regress back to our high school behavior by having the need to be in a click to feel important.  I see it in the work place.   During lunch, we gravitate towards going out to eat with the women who we think are the “cool” ones.  There is always a leader in the pack that will initiate gossip and there are always followers who go along with it.

 

Women are strong, intelligent, and caring.  We can learn a lot from each other.  It should not matter if you are tall, fat, black, or white we should stick together.  It would be so nice to tell one of your female colleagues something nice and encouraging.  When a group of women are out they always seem to spot a woman who is not in the group and say something bad about the clothes she is  wearing or how she is dancing.  Why are women like this?  Is it because they are so insecure?

 

I recall when I used to go out with my female co-workers; there was a co-worker in the group who spoke negatively about us behind our backs.  I became tired of her bad energy and I removed myself from the group.  I am proud of myself for not being a follower or having the need to be in a click.   Most women who are constantly being negative towards other women are insecure and miserable with themselves.  I truly agree with Mariann Williamson who stated “Our self-perception determines our behavior.”   If we see ourselves as ugly and mean then we treat people that way too.  If women can see themselves as being beautiful and loving people, they will be respectful and caring to others.  They can share all their positive energy with other women.

 

Most women are jealous of other women for no reason at all.  We should never envy someone for what they have.  We should be happy for each other’s success.  We should uplift each other and encourage each other to achieve their goals.  Some women will continue to put you down so you will not achieve your goals.  They rather see you unhappy and miserable like them.  

 

We learned about so many well-known good women who made history like Mother Teresa, Helen Keller, and Eleanor Roosevelt. They possessed so much love and kindness towards people.  They were good examples of how women should be towards one another.

 

When the Women’s Rights Movement was established in 1848, we read about these women who worked together to achieve something positive for all women.  I am sure Susan B.  Anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton did not sit around talking about what these other women in the group were wearing or how their hair looked. They were focused on being a good example for all women to fight for their rights.

 

We need to take a good look at ourselves in the mirror and ask ourselves why we are not being kind to one another? Women need to embrace and uplift each other to be the best they can be by using positive words and ending the gossiping. It starts from making a change with you the individual to be confident and happy with yourself. 

 

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