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The Holiday Season is not the Time to Feel Lonely!


The Holiday Season is not the Time to Feel Lonely!

The holiday season is a time when people should be with family and friends. Do not concern yourself with not being in a relationship this time of year. Embrace the people who have been with you all through the years and enjoy the holidays with them.

The holiday season is a time of joy and happiness. Take the time to be grateful for the people who are in your life now. Do not lose the moment by being pensive about being single. The single people who feel lonely during the season are really not lonely. They fail to see they are never alone. People always have the choice on how they will enjoy their holiday. It is all about having confidence from within to not feel lonely.

Here are 10 things a person can do to not feel lonely during the holiday season:

  1. Invite your closest friends to your place for dinner and cocktails
  2. Volunteer at a homeless shelter.
  3. Go to church and praise the lord.
  4. Be grateful for the people in your life and show them how you appreciate them.
  5. Know that it is not about you it is about bringing joy to someone else.
  6. Check on a sick or elderly neighbor and spend some quality time with them.
  7. Do something that will make you feel good about yourself.
  8. Go to a comedy club and laugh out loud.
  9. Call up an old friend you have not spoken to in years and say Happy Holidays!
  10. Take a road trip to a city or state you would love to explore.

There are so many more things a person can do to shake the holiday blues away and be joyous. It is making the choice to be and stay happy. A person does not have to feel lonely and feel sorry for him or herself during the holidays.

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What does Thanksgiving mean to you?

Family Having Thanksgiving Dinner

What does Thanksgiving mean to you? Do you wait for the Thanksgiving holiday to be thankful and eat with your family? Some people look forward to Thanksgiving because it is the only day of the year family and friends can get together to eat a good dinner and catch up. We allow ourselves to be so busy to the point we don’t have time to sit at the dinner table to enjoy a nice meal with people you love and to have a good conversation. We get caught up with worldly things and we forget to be thankful for what is important in our lives everyday like waking up every morning. People do not realize it is therapeutic and healthy to have a home cooked dinner with good company and to show gratitude everyday. Ask yourself when was the last time you had a home cooked dinner with family friends consistently? You do not have to wait for Thanksgiving to do it.
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The Best Relationship You Can Have Is Being With Yourself!


The Best Relationship You Can Have Is Being With Yourself!

 I was once guilty of being uncomfortable to be alone with myself.  I always wanted to be with someone.  When I was home, my parents or siblings were home with me.  I never did things alone; I had to have my friends come with me.  If they were unavailable to go somewhere with me, I wouldn’t go.  I never understood the reason I did not like my own company.  As I matured and did a lot of soul searching, I realized that it is time to build a relationship with me.

 I remember when I was in elementary school I did not want to be the little girl in the lunchroom eating alone.  In college, I would not be caught dead eating in the University Center alone.  When I became a career woman, I made sure I developed a friendship with a co-worker to have a buddy to go out with to lunch.  I started thinking how unhealthy this is for me to be an adult and not want to do things by myself.

 One day, I read an article “Being in a Relationship with Yourself” by Rachael R.  White.  She discussed how it is important to have self-love.  I did not want to admit to myself that I did not love myself enough to want to be in a relationship with me.  I did not have the confidence or high self-esteem to go out to lunch alone or go to the movies alone.   How can I ever have a healthy relationship with anyone if I did not enjoy being in a relationship with me?  Rachael stated, “If you have a good relationship with yourself, it is highly likely that you’ll have good relationships with other people. We like being around positive people that like themselves.”

One day I decided to go catch a matinee alone.  At first, I felt weird about it.  I thought people at the movie theater were staring at me and feeling sorry for me.  I exhaled, sat down, and enjoyed a nice movie which was “The Bodyguard.”  I thought to myself how it wasn’t so bad going to the movies alone.  I kind of enjoyed it.  I was glad I took that first step in doing something alone with myself.  I started to go out to lunch by myself at work.  I was learning to love myself and enjoying “my me time”.   I was able to take long walks and think.  I started to become more at peace with my thoughts and love me.


As I began to develop a relationship with myself, I gained confidence and high self-esteem.  I walked with my head up and a bright smile.  I started having more people approach me and wanting to be with me.

 My family and friends noticed the positive change in me.  Now when my husband, friends, or siblings are unable to go out with me I tell them it is ok, I will go alone.  The first time one of my friends heard me say those words, she did not believe me.  When she saw pictures of me at this certain event alone, she was shocked and impressed.  One thing I also realized, when you go out on your own, it is easier to make new friends.

 I enjoy being in a relationship with me.   By taking time to get to know me, I have become a confident woman with a good sense of self.  I appreciate being able to go catch a matinee or go out to lunch by myself.  It is a wonderful feeling.


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Ladies Time Out!


Ladies when we are so busy with our career and personal life it is more than ok to take timeout to meet up for drinks with the girls. It is so nice to have good conversations, music, and drinks. Talk it up, drink it up, and dance it up!








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